Fathers Are Wonderful People

Whenever I look closely, I find that almost all the problems in our relationships are offspring of misunderstandings. And we feel loved only when we are understood. Whenever we feel sad, we say, “no one understands me”. Understanding is that important.

But Today My thoughts are drifting towards the most misunderstood species on earth. 

The Fathers.

Yes, the fathers are wonderful people but we never really get to understand them. We know that they love us and we love them but they are not our favourite like mothers. Why?

One of the reasons is that fathers’ job is invisible. Like they go to work somewhere but we never see what they go through there to survive. We see our mothers clean, cook, concerned and troubled and so they become our hero.

It is said that there is double pleasure in loving than in being loved and in that way our mothers have all the pleasure. They love their family, house, and everything in between. It shows in their nature. While our fathers live in an environment where people dislike each other most of the time. It shows in his nature.

Fathers are the most dissatisfied people on earth. They want more success; to give their family more comfort. More time for family, more time to love and be loved. But unfortunately, they never fully achieve this goal and so this love starved creature remains imbalanced all his life.

We remember all the sarcastic comments made by our fathers but fail to realise that we are what we are because of those scornful words. An encouraging mother and a mocking father is the best recipe for an individual’s success. Thank God for having both.

A father is not the one who nurses our wounds, it’s the mother. We think it is because he doesn't care but the truth is that he is petrified by the sight of blood and can't bear to see his child in pain. He hides his fear by scolding us at our stupidity. But every night a father enquires about our health and a mother can guarantee that. He is also the one whose eyes are moist at every success of ours and whose heart breaks at every failure. He just manages to hide his emotions brilliantly.

All our life we long for our father’s acceptance in whatever we do.

And one day........ the role is reversed.

Our fathers are retired and have all the time to love and be loved. But by then we have no time. He is still waiting for a hug from his child which he forgot to give years ago. He is waiting for some encouraging words which he never pronounced. He is waiting for love which he missed so much while pulling together life’s necessities for us. Don’t continue this vicious cycle of loving but not expressing. Just hug him once and make up for all the lost years. They deserve our love, respect, and understanding equally as our mothers.

Fathers are as wonderful as mothers, just look closely.